You don’t absolutely have to do it, but I recommend it at some point in the conversation. It gives a woman a specific reason why you like her and why you’re there. Let’s say I’m out of town in a village, and there’s only one pub and only one chick who’s fuckable. Even if I don’t necessarily like her a whole lot, I can still find ways to honestly compliment her.

Catnap: “Hey, you’re the most decent chick in this place. I’m gonna have to bring you to my room tonight.”

Why should you compliment?

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It’s hard for me to assume attraction if my confidence is subzero, if I have zero charisma, if I’m clueless about being suave, and I’m scared shitless when I approach.

If I have all these elements, it’s the easiest thing to do.

You must force yourself to become fearless and ruthlessly confident. It’s like practicing bobbing and weaving (dodging punches) when boxing. You must always look at the opponent and see the punches he’s throwing at you, even though they’re coming fast and furious. You must look at the punches and not blink your eyes, learn to go against your natural instincts, and build some new ones until they become natural enough for you to apply them when you’re in the middle of the fight.

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At the time “Transformers 2” came out, I watched an interview where Shia LaBeouf (the lead actor) was asked if Megan Fox was a good kisser, if he had an crush on her, etc. He denied having any attraction to her during the first interview, but then the next week I heard he wanted to have a relationship with her.

I experienced a brief moment of doubt and asked myself, “How could a rich excuser get such a hot girl?” I was then reassured by Megan Fox’s statement: “I see Shia LaBeouf like my little brother.” Phew. Relief. Of course she sees him like her little brother—the guy’s scared shitless of her and admires her like a teen who’s opened his first Playboy magazine.

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“I’m not trying to be bold, but I guess I am by default.” — Catnap

Being bold is often overrated. Beginners often think that to be direct, they have to tell the woman something incredibly shocking to the likes of: “Hey, my name is Sam. I’m dying to fuck your ass,” with a huge smile on their face, or “Hey, I think you have the right booty for doggy style.”

Direct has to come from a genuine standpoint. You can’t have a huge smile on your face like you just made a joke, blurt a few lines, and think you’ll actually get somewhere. The chick will think you’re a clown. Clowns don't get laid. They’re excusers who avoid the pain of rejection by turning everything into a big joke and laughing it off.

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