At the time “Transformers 2” came out, I watched an interview where Shia LaBeouf (the lead actor) was asked if Megan Fox was a good kisser, if he had an crush on her, etc. He denied having any attraction to her during the first interview, but then the next week I heard he wanted to have a relationship with her.

I experienced a brief moment of doubt and asked myself, “How could a rich excuser get such a hot girl?” I was then reassured by Megan Fox’s statement: “I see Shia LaBeouf like my little brother.” Phew. Relief. Of course she sees him like her little brother—the guy’s scared shitless of her and admires her like a teen who’s opened his first Playboy magazine.

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“I’m not trying to be bold, but I guess I am by default.” — Catnap

Being bold is often overrated. Beginners often think that to be direct, they have to tell the woman something incredibly shocking to the likes of: “Hey, my name is Sam. I’m dying to fuck your ass,” with a huge smile on their face, or “Hey, I think you have the right booty for doggy style.”

Direct has to come from a genuine standpoint. You can’t have a huge smile on your face like you just made a joke, blurt a few lines, and think you’ll actually get somewhere. The chick will think you’re a clown. Clowns don't get laid. They’re excusers who avoid the pain of rejection by turning everything into a big joke and laughing it off.

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Approach anxiety is probably the most common and most underrated reason most guys drink when they go out. Mr. Excuser panics at the idea of even starting a conversation with a female he doesn’t know. So he goes out with the “boys,” talks about guy stuff all night, acts macho, and fools around like a baboon with his monkey friends, drinking and ignoring the fact that he’s scared shitless of the hot vixens who are right next to him, about an arm’s reach away.

He keeps drinking to let go of his inhibitions (which are irrational in the first place), and the more he drinks, the more courageous he gets. So he swallows even MORE liquid courage, and taking deep breaths, raises his heart rate like a warrior before combat, preparing himself for the high moment of the night, when he’ll make his one killer approach.

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So, finally we’ve gotten to the part you’ve been dying for: the approach. How do you do it, exactly?

ARE YOU READY FOR THE HARSH TRUTH?

My friend, there’s no precise rejection-proof method of approach that’ll make women succumb to your charm every time and have them beg for your sexual company. Any man who says the contrary is full of shit. If you don’t have the balls to tell him yourself, tell him I said it.

We all wish there were a secret formula so dorks could turn into popular bachelors overnight.
Wouldn’t things be so much easier?

Unfortunately, we’re not in la-la land. Are you bummed out? Hope not.

To make you feel better, though, there’s a sort of mindset to have when you want to approach a woman from an honest and DIRECT standpoint.

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